What a conundrum I am in. I never know how I should react in a situation. There is always "don't say anything, it's not worth it." But then there is the "you should stick up for yourself" reasoning too.
Growing up, sometimes I would get picked on and then tell my Mom later about it. She would tell me to just ignore it and eventually they would give up. This was true, but now as an adult, should I have stood up for myself? What gives people the right to say anything to you? I was, by no means, "the perfect, innocent little child". I said things sometimes too, but I wasn't very clever and usually the kid was being a brat themselves.
I remember in elementary school there was a girl who me and some other girls had said stuff to. I can't remember all the details, but I do remember that we didn't get into any trouble because she was a part of the problem. I guess she could dish it out but couldn't handle it. My point is, sometimes kids can make a mountain out of a mole hill and the truth does come out eventually. She wanted to play the victim but she was just as much to blame.
Where am I going with this? I don't think I really know at this point... I had a thought process and it got shot to hell when I got distracted.
If you stand up for yourself, people tend to back off. But then sometimes, it's more energy to say something then to just ignore it.
I am just beginning to find my backbone.. sadly in my 20's. There were plenty of times that I needed one and I just let people walk all over me.
When and where is the right time as well? At work, school and home? Sometimes I think you have to grin and bare it and others I think you need to speak your mind.
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